Hey there,
I’m writing this to you as a fellow woman and a very caring one at that. I know your friends since high school and your auntie told you that you don’t need to bow to no man and I somehow agree with them because you are a precious creation that should be treated with respect. I agree that no one, man or woman should downgrade you in any way because you are unique in your own precious way and you are beautiful. You are the best version of yourself.
However, you are all grown-up now and you made an agreement with that man that you should end up being something… or making something. You are still precious but when it comes to this institution, your dignity, integrity, and any other good -ity of you is dictated by how well you get along. Your theory that men and women are equal does not apply here.
You can do all that he can, alright? I don’t dispute that sweetheart. All I am saying that in every empire, there is a ruler, then a helper, and so on. In this kingdom, he is the king and you are the queen (I’m sure you have once called him that) since you already know that theory, I won’t bore you with a lot of repetition. You know your place: STICK TO IT!
Stop arguing with him over who should wash the dishes, watch the baby overnight, change diapers….. it’s foolish to do so. If he is understanding enough, he will offer to do it or hire you a help. If he doesn’t, IT’S YOUR JOB to do all that so be the superwoman you always have been or wisely talk him into getting you a house-help, otherwise you are in trouble. Be wise in words rather than trying the controlling way. he is not a TV set; he is a man and all men are natural rulers.
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41 responses to “This is a Relationship Not a Debate”
I would completely agree with you…if I was not working full time as well. But being a mom, working full time (stuck home alone no less with the two little ones while he’s working outside of the home) for 40-50 hours a week, and then being expected to do all of the housework on top of that without his help…isn’t happening in my house lol. I totally get where you’re coming from though! If I was a stay at home mom and not working full time then this is seriously right up my alley! I’d rather not be working and only taking care of the homefront!
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I understand you completely. I only do like half the house chores and I get so tired that I oversleep. We need help especially if we are working.
just don’t force it on him or you may end up in hot soup hehe
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Oh no, lolol, no forcing!! ๐ Totally makes sense!
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I hoped so hehe
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Wise feedback!
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Wonderful written. Cant regret. Thank you, ane enjoy the week. Michael
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Thank you Michael. Have a great week as well
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Thank you! You too. ๐
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You know your place: STICK TO IT!
My best friend and I were talking about this in the office. I am glad we share the same idea on this topic.
Timeless wisdom!
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Oh! What a coincidence. Thank you for the feedback
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I agree with you… All this whining about equality is destroying relationships and marriages.
Good job
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haha. So you got here.๐๐
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Interesting.
I don’t know what to say really. But here is my 2cent: Every relationship is a social contract of sorts, and with that there are clauses. There is nothing of the sort who is what ( men being rulers or something of that sort ). I did my national service of 5 years and am a pretty good cook- and can do the dishes with equal ease. The point is – there are no set rules.
So, contract. At the beginning of relationships people know a little about the other person, but over time things get clearer. I believe there is a need to set terms at the very beginning as to who does what or what your expectations are. Over a bit of time, one can always asses and decide whether they need to carry on or not.
But of course, my recommendations are invalid for people who don’t know themselves.
Quite a thought provoking post really.
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I agree dear. It’s the two parties to agree.
However, tell me; if you had a demanding woman, won’t you push back?
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If the demands are correct, Why push back?
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Because of gender differences dear
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Hi! Pl check your mail.
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okay
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This is really a motivational write up, i could feel the power behind it. You are 100% correct. Even the bible clearly state the role of women in a home but this generation is trying to turn it upside down. Kudos. Check out my blog during your spare time.
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Thank you for passing by and for the affirmation. I will sure pay you a visit
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A good relationship is more than a business partnership. It is a life together. A good relationship works b/c EACH party contributes MORE than 50%.
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I agree. Each party must play it’s part
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Makes sense ! โค
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Haha. Thank you for the affirmation
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What an am amazing topic you’ve gifted to your pen…..
Nice pencraft…..๐
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Thank you Kumar
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You welcome buddy….
Have a blissful day ahead…๐
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You too dear
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I honestly feel like a better person after reading this. So much makes sense and I can see patterns that I transfer into my own relationships.
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I’m really happy that you can relate to this post. Thanks CEO of Curious Peas ๐
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Finally someone said it! Now that definition of the woman right there is an Alpha Queen. Ready to get her hands dirty and head in the game for things/people that matter. ๐
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Perfect. Thank you for the kind words of affirmation. You’re greatly treasured
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YOWZA FOR THE WOMEN! โค
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I hope I am misinterpreting the message. However, it sounds like you are saying there is a ruler and a helper and the ruler gets to push his way around, even when he is wrong.
The rulership that God designed is that a man shows initiation in holiness and righteousness. So there is no room for him NOT to do right. He has a greater responsibility in making sure God’s will is done.
Should he not do right, then no, a woman should not nag him. She should be cooperative to please God as long as she is not sinning, but it doesn’t change the fact that the husband is WRONG.
Somehow, seems this message is alluding to the idea that according to roles, rulers get to be selfish and do as they please. That is not a Jesus Christ centered principle.
True godly headship takes the initiative in demonstrating examples of selflessness, love, sacrifice, and servitude. This does not appeal to plenty men (oh they HATE IT) so they like the idea of pushing their way around, because it is in their flesh to crave dominance and control.
I’m just examining things based on Christ- centered principles, which is the ONLY way to look at it. Look at the examples Jesus set as a Righteous Servant who is in authority. But that is how he used his authority. Is the authority to serve and to set righteous examples. Look at in what way He commands husbands to love their wives…AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH.
That is an enormous command and has no selfishness and no refusing to be a provider, or source.
Some men hate this and don’t accept it though.
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Hi love,
Thank you for this precious input. It is true that men should lead by example.
The end justifies the means really. What would you do if you found yourself married to a controlling or domineering man?
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Hmm.. My Wife Insists
She Does It All Better
Than Me So I Let Her
Be The Boss And Comply
When She Insists On Doing It All…
i’m No MicroManager
Unless i must
Step In to
Assist
When it looks
Like She May Exhaust
Her Retirement Funds
As She Has A Disorder
of Rarely Aging And Will
Likely Need my Act of Tough Love HAha…
Hehe, Leadership Is Relative to How You
Get the Job Done It’s A Work of Art Ongoing
Gauged on How Pleased All Parties Are Concerned Mariana…
Bonobos in the Wild Live in Matriarchal Societies Where the
Women Are in Charge All The Males Do Is Please the Females
And Spend The Rest of Their Day With Their Feet Kicked Up
By The Pond Relaxing Toxic Patriarchy Is A Fool’s Game
Where i Live That Usually Leads to A Long Term Wife
Of a Four-Wheel Drive Sitting In Front of A Trailer
With Three or Four Sets of Kids to Support
And A Boat And A Camper That Never
Gets Used In the Back Yard As They
Work Their Selves to Death in Two Jobs
Or More To Pay For All Toxic Patriarchy Springs
-Clever Ape
Clever Financially
Independent Ape Who
Only Dances And Sings
While Katrina Merrily Does the
Rest Happy Enough to Hardly Age With SMiLes..
Mileage Varies Depending on Make and Model of
Human Being Dear Different Cultures Different Strokes
Different
Humans
Different
Ways of Relaxing
Happy or in Living Hell
Again It’s A Work of Art
Chances Are No One Else
In the Entire UniVerse Would
Put Up with me for 31 Years Know Your Blessing
FeeL iT ALWayS NoW
It’s
What
i Do Best With SMiLes..:)
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Lovely thought. It’s yiu to decide, after all ๐
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Life Is Always
Good Now Dear
Mariana Very Very Good ๐
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I love that
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